One of the biggest problems that parents can face is that one of their sons or daughters falls prey to addiction, and the shock may be great in the beginning. But of course, it needs to move quickly, so that they can get their son or daughter out of this ordeal.
An addicted person is nothing but a sick person in serious need of help and assistance, and the treatment does not stop at the doctors and places specialized in such cases, but the family bears a large part of the responsibility for treatment.
What are the mistakes that the family makes when dealing with an addict?
There are common mistakes that an addicted son/daughter family makes without realizing that falling into them may deepen the problem, and result in more serious effects than what it shows. The most prominent of which are:
- Ignore the problem – treat the son/daughter as a teen in which curiosity is a key feature, and that the son will be fine when he matures.
- Leaving narcotic drugs at home – Not being indifferent to the danger of leaving analgesics, sedatives, and narcotic drugs in easily accessible places is one of the most common mistakes.
- Caring for one child at the expense of the rest – spending all your time worrying about your child with a drug problem, and ignoring the rest of your children try to make their choices as good as possible.
Extravagance without an account – continuing to give your son money unconsciously, or your son spending his money on drug use to the best of your knowledge and doing nothing, and the one who pays the price for that is the mother who does not know that one of her sons is now addicted because he is “spoiled.”
- Delaying the confrontation – the more you delay confronting your son who is a drug user, you will pay an over price for that matter. As the matter does not require all this trouble, just take the first decision to confront .. and then seek to solve the problem from the beginning.
- Isolation – One of the worst feelings that you can convey to your son/daughter is to deal with the logic of isolation from people and society just because he fell into the clutches of drugs and addiction.
- Making justifications for the addict – Justifying the addicted son in front of his family, especially his sisters, results in them feeling indifference towards the wrong actions they do without feeling the seriousness of the problem of drug use.
- Indifference to psychological treatment – Once your son enters a recovery program, you must be aware that attending psychotherapy sessions helps him recover properly, and abandoning him at this stage is a setback that may return him to square zero.
- Returning to the same environment – to be satisfied with the first stages of addiction treatment, and to be happy about your son’s return to a life that seems normal, without completing the treatment program, and falling into a trap is one of the most serious problems, is to put him into the same environment in which he fell into drug use and addiction.
- Lack of communication – After going through this painful experience, do not leave your children without real communication, talk to them, share their problems, their private lives, so that one of them does not become a new victim in the merciless world of addiction, because communication is better than treatment.
Correct ways to deal with an addict
- Getting close to the addict – Family and close people should not quit the addicted person and try to get close to him as much as possible. Support through family and close people contributes a lot to treatment and recovery in a faster time.
- Show love – Whatever the parents’ attitude towards the behavior of the addicted person, they must show their love for this addicted individual , so they can make him feel safe and hopeful, as he is in dire need of that feeling at this stage, and it will help him a lot in accepting advice and treatment.
- Appropriately confront the addict – he must be confronted with the reality of his illness and his current health condition, but with great calm and caution so that he responds to treatment and does not refuse it, and we must be well aware that this person is not a criminal, but rather a victim and needs help, not punishment.
- Seeking help from specialists – a psychiatrist should be consulted to clarify how to properly deal with the addict according to the treatment plan determined by the specialist doctor.
- Non-use of violence – It is strictly forbidden to use violence with the addicted person, as this may be counterproductive, so wisdom and reason must be used when dealing with him.
- Choosing the right time for advice – You should choose the right time to give advice to the addicted person or try to convince him of something, so you should not discuss with him when he is under the influence of drugs or in a disturbed psychological state and in a bad mood.
- Awareness of the duration of treatment – we must continue treatment and not despair even if it requires more time, we should be well aware that just as addiction takes time to happen, we will definitely need more time to treat and reform that person again.
The family should not rush or remove the recovering person before his treatment program is completed, as this may lead to a relapse and a return to the path of addiction again.
- Elimination of the causes of addiction – trying to find and overcome the reasons that prompted this person to become addicted.
- Positive interaction – the family and close people should deal with the addicted person in a positive way, and not resort to the method of reprimand and blame for his actions and other negative words, as this makes the matter worse.
- Removing the recovering from stress – the recover-er should be removed as much as possible from any psychological pressures or problems, as this may lead to a relapse.